Dating Violence

What is Dating Violence?

 Dating violence can be a single act or a pattern of troubling behavior in relationships. It can start with what seem like small acts, but lead to more serious violence, like physical assault and rape.  It is a form of domestic violence that happens between people in a close relationship.  

How do I recognize dating or relationship abuse and violence? 

 Violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. However, in most abusive relationships, the abusive partner does many different things to exert power and control over their partners. If you’re beginning to wonder whether your partner or a friend’s partner is abusive, look out for these behaviors:

  • Telling you that you can never do anything right; embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
  • Showing jealousy of your friends; controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do 
  • Acting in ways that scare you
  • Preventing you from making your own decisions, working or attending class
  • Destroying your property or threatening things or people you care about
  • Pressuring you to have sex or engage in sexual behavior you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol

See a list of red flags from the National Domestic Violence Hotline here.  

What are forms of dating violence?

 Dating violence can be physical, sexual and/or emotional.  At the same time, cell phones and the Internet are often used as tools for abuse. These technologies enable quick and constant access which can be a means to impose control and harass others.  Read more about forms of dating violence here. If you’re experiencing or observing any of the above, get support. Read the Policy Definition.